We got GOOD news at an oncology appointment.
I know, right?
Who knew that was even a thing that could happen.
“I’m a widow; I don’t even believe in the future.” -C.M.S.
We didn’t even dare think about the idea of good news.
I sure didn’t anyway.
We were all pretty stunned by it, to be honest.
Doctor: “Hold up!”
Doctor: “Nope. Those are your ribs. Nice try, though.”
Doctor: “It’s not good OR bad; it is what it is.”
Me: “Uh huh. [So it’s bad then.]”
It was.
Doctor, yesterday, seeing my sister and me fiercely holding hands and stealthily wiping away tears with the other hand: “I often do make people cry. But not for this reason.”
Me, silently, with watery eyes: “Jeez, Mom, I’m trying to drive here.”
We know we are so. damn. lucky.
We know this luck can’t hold.
We know that all we have is this very moment.
I know this in theory only, evidently, as I’ve put myself through seven circles of unnecessary hell in the last few days between latest scan and followup appointment, imagining only the worst. I act and talk all “stay present” and “it is what it is” and “oohhhmmmm” but in real life I’ve been imagining my mother dead and dying and all that will entail for the rest of us, too.
We know what we have here is pure luck in action.
“Genes” says Mom, which to my mind is another way of saying “luck”.
We know it is not because “God is good” or God picked us.
My Christian friend J.T.E., a widow whose Texas home recently flooded, says “I don’t believe in a God who cherry-picks whom to help. I don’t believe in a God who gives us what we ask for, like Santa.”
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